We often get questions about what exactly goes in a parenting plan. If you’re going through a divorce or custody case in Oklahoma, you’ll likely be required to submit a parenting plan to the court. A well-crafted parenting plan outlines how separated or divorced parents will share responsibilities for raising their child. It reduces confusion, sets expectations, and helps protect the best interests of the child. But what exactly should go into a parenting plan? Here’s what Oklahoma courts typically look for—and what you should consider including.
Is a Parenting Plan Required in Oklahoma?
Under 43 O.S. § 109, when custody is contested, the court generally requires both parties to submit proposed parenting plans. The judge may adopt one parent’s plan or create a blended plan that reflects what the court believes is in the child’s best interests.
The more comprehensive your plan, the better your chances of avoiding future disputes.
Key Components of a Parenting Plan
1. Custody Designation
The plan should specify whether the parties are sharing joint custody or whether one parent will have sole custody. This includes:
- Legal custody – who makes major decisions (education, health, religion)
- Physical custody – where the child primarily lives
You may propose joint legal custody even if one parent has primary physical custody.
2. Parenting Time Schedule
You’ll need to outline the regular schedule for when the child is with each parent, including:
- Weekday and weekend schedules
- Holiday rotations (Christmas, Thanksgiving, Spring Break, etc.)
- Summer break arrangements
- Transportation details (pickup/drop-off times and locations)
Being specific helps avoid future arguments and provides stability for the child.
3. Decision-Making Authority
The plan should explain how the parents will make decisions, including:
- Whether both parents must agree on major issues
- Which parent handles specific areas (e.g., medical, school, extracurriculars)
- How both parents will resolve disputes (mediation, arbitration, or court)
4. Communication Guidelines
Effective co-parenting depends on good communication, so your plan should address:
- Methods of communication (email, text, parenting apps)
- Notice requirements for travel, medical decisions, or emergencies
- Expectations for discussing the child’s progress or concerns
5. Rules for Relocation
Under Oklahoma law, a parent who wishes to relocate more than 75 miles must follow specific notice requirements. Your parenting plan can include stipulations such as:
- How much notice is necessary before moving
- How relocation affects the custody schedule
- How to resolve relocation disputes
6. Child Support and Financial Responsibilities
While a parenting plan isn’t the formal child support order, it can address:
- How parents will share costs for school supplies, medical expenses, and extracurriculars
- How reimbursements will be handled
- Whether child support is paid directly or through the Department of Human Services (DHS)
Why a Thoughtful Parenting Plan Matters
A clear parenting plan not only protects your parental rights but also helps your child adjust to life after separation. Courts in Oklahoma prioritize the best interests of the child, and a well-structured plan shows that you’re focused on providing stability and cooperation.
Tulsa Family Law Attorneys
We help parents create parenting plans that meet legal standards and support healthy co-parenting relationships. Whether you’re preparing for court or negotiating with the other parent, the Oklahoma custody attorneys at Tulsa Divorce Attorneys and Associates can help. Just call us at 539.302.0303 or simply click here to ask a child custody legal question.